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SO WHAT

August 28, 2007

At the age of 14, I was raped by my boyfriend who was 16. I was a virgin at the time of the rape, so it was a double whammy for me. I was so embarrassed, that I held this tragedy in for a year before I finally told anyone what happen.

After my boyfriend raped, he kept on acting as if nothing had happen. He would harrass me by sending me things or saying things about my body. He ended up sleeping with my best friend at the time, in my home.

I have always been small 'figured' and very embarrassed about it. Also, I have always been small framed and gained 50 pounds while pregnant with my daughter. I luckly lost all the pregnancy weight. But nearly two years later, at the age of 27, I had to have an abdominal hysterectomy w/ a bilaterial salpingo opperectomy (removal of ovaries). I gained quite a bit more weight. Even during all this weight gain, my 'figure' remained small and I still felt embarrassed.

Todays society is so down on small 'figured' women and I am sick of it. I am a beautiful person on the inside and out. So, what if I am small 'figured'. I am having to learn to accept myself for the way God made me.

Tyra Bank's "So What" campaign is really making me take another look at myself. I am starting to feel more secure about the way I look, dressing sexier, and am to the point of, "SO WHAT"! If you can't accept me for me, I'm better off not knowing you. Your loss.

Thanks Tyra for such an inspirational campain!

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      Posted 9 months ago by stephaniereneejones777

      ahh i am sorry that this has happened to you! NO one deserves it EVER...what a horrible thing to happen... you are quite strong to be able to tell us in the blog about this experience... and you are right... society bites when it comes to images be proud and loud and that is a perfect campaign!

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      Posted 1 year ago by MoLove

      aww Tina, sorry to hear this, as I am also a survivor of rape, and always wanted to start some kind of non profit organization to help young women who have experienced this (1 in 3 women have). That being said, much kudos to you for being brave enough to share this story with us. It is a very embarrasing and humiliating thing. You are beautiful in my eyes and have a sweet spirit. :) Love you!

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      Posted 1 year ago by MoLove

      aww Tina, sorry to hear this, as I am also a survivor of rape, and always wanted to start some kind of non profit organization to help young women who have experienced this (1 in 3 women have). That being said, much kudos to you for being brave enough to share this story with us. It is a very embarrasing and humiliating thing. You are beautiful in my eyes and have a sweet spirit. :) Love you!

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      Posted 1 year ago by LoyalLAM

      Christina, I am so sorry that this has happened to you. It sounds like you have risen above it and are able to move on in your life. I have never met you (but wish I did) because you are a wonderful person. God has blessed you with a beautiful daughter and it is amazing that you can stay strong for her. Please know how proud I am of you. I love this fan club because no one on here judges anybody. We are one happy family and I want you to know if you ever need any one to talk to, I am a great listener. Loyal Love Lorrie

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      Posted 1 year ago by La

      ((((peaches))) I LOVE YA HUN!!!! You my dear friend are a wonderful Person and Friend, whats done is done hun, however you have your whole life ahead of you.,Live it like it is your last:) love ya! La

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      Posted 1 year ago by TinkyBaby80

      I totally agree... You need to proud and confident of yourself, no matter what...Also you have that little girl looking up to you..Changing the way society thinks takes decades, but showing your daughter to be proud of her body By you Being proud of Yours-is an amazing step! huggs tink